20 March 2021 Text by Diana, Photo by Jason Rosewell on Unsplash
It was very curious yesterday. I took a walk around to reflect on something that popped up in my mind. I have three recordings of my coaching hours to hear, and I wasn’t capable of that. I’ve tried to play them, and after a few seconds, I paused and closed the files. Awful!
This could be a massive problem for me because I need some video or sound recordings for my work. If I cannot listen to and review them, I cannot decide if they are good enough to be posted/used or not, obviously.
Why is that? Why my voice feels to me to be so awkward and childish and alien? Where I get these feelings from?
Or are they just thoughts generated by beliefs, previous experiences, and images on how should my voice sound? May it sound awkward and alien to me. But is this true?
Well, obviously not. It is just a made-up thought. Is there an argument, undeniable proof to back up these thoughts? Of course not! It is just a belief, a limiting and destroying belief.
My voice is just as normal as any other voice on this earth. And everyone around me is accustomed and good with it. So now, being conscious about that, what do I do? I decide not to listen to the disempowering thought and practice with my voice on recordings, and guess what? Post them!
Whatever my voice sounds, it is my voice. I don’t have any other voice. The only choices are; not speaking anymore or getting over and use my voice in any form I would like to use.
Curiously enough, the same day evening, I opened LinkedIn for the last feeds check. What is now on top of the list? The Neuroscience News’s article called: “Why do we hate the sound of our own voices?” What? Seriously? Coincidence again?
Well, the scientific explanation is quite logical. On a recording, the recorded voice is transmitted only by air. However, the sound of voice we hear is a composite one: air transmitted and skull-bones transmitted. Therefore, it sounds pretty different as it is when only transmitted by air.
Quite simple, isn’t it? There is no alien in between. Or?